Self Love & The Truth About Balance {Secret.....It's Bullshit!}

We must first care for our own souls before we can help heal the world
— Stacey Foley

Can we just start with the truth, balance is bullshit. When we start to think about self care and self love we always think that it comes down to finding the “balance” in our lives but balance doesn’t exist, not really. Sure people will sell you on the idea that in order to be happy, fulfilled and successful you must find balance with your business, kids, spouse, friends and life but unless you’re a part of a Cirque du Soleil that shit doesn’t exist. So lets just break out that truth now and move on.

Self love needs to be a priority every day. That doesn’t mean you have the freedom to run away from home at any given moment but it does mean that you have the right to ask for a break. To ask for help when you need it. We need to give ourselves permission to not have to do it all, and be it all, at every given moment. The overwhelm of life, motherhood, entrepreneurship, marriage, it can all be too much sometimes and we need to cut ourselves some slack. We spend so much of our day focusing on the needs of others that we often lose sight of our own. Serving others is a beautiful practice of faith and love, but we need to remember to do the same for ourselves. We cannot put forth our best selves if we have forgotten to nourish our own souls.

So give yourself permission to take that hot bath with a good book. To sit on your back deck with a glass of wine in silence {what is that?} while your partner takes your kids to the park. To cry your eyes out at a chick flick with your girls. To stand in the forest and scream at the top of your lungs. Give yourself permission to say “I am not okay and I need some help.” You are not failing at life just because you can’t balance 450 balls at the same time. You are not failing at motherhood because your kids went to school with money for lunch instead of a gluten free, non-GMO, organic lunch from home. You are not failing at marriage because you tell your husband “not tonight”. You are a warrior queen and you need to remember that you are doing the best damn job you can and that IS ENOUGH!

Keep Inspiring,

Stacey Foley

Life & Business Coach | CEO of Collective Joy | Motivational Speaker | Author